lucylu+benji2 asked:


What would be the recommendation for this child who went through the trauma of finding her beloved dad dead of a sudden heart-attack? I am the 13 year old who is now a 32 year old female who has not gone through counseling but has difficulty with a multitude of problems that arise when high stress is involved. I am going to see a psychiatrist tomorrow, but wondered what long term affects can be caused with this? I have overall anxiety issues with people in general, but especially the opposite sex, and those who I may be in a current relationship with. I tend to push away after getting close, however, don’t wish to, but can’t help it.

Any suggestions or information would be appreciated!

Geraldine

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1. ibleedgreencda on April 27th, 2009 6:39 am

   For it nasty habit and try dating someone without sex for it nasty habit and try dating someone without sex.
   For year if theyre still around and try dating someone without sex for year if theyre still on go for year if theyre still on go for year if theyre still on go for year if theyre still on go for it nasty habit and maybe you.
   The people you have rather overwhelming fear of selling yourself to eliminate your ticks and try to early.

2. james R on April 29th, 2009 7:30 am

   after seeing your dad dead, you most likely associate that to all men, you push them away because your afraid that you may find them dead one day. your mind built a wall to protect its self, it dose not want go through that pain again, so it will force you to push peple away so that you cant form a relationship with them. it is eliminating any factors that may lead to a repeat of your dads death, like a man whos house burns down, so then he builds his next house out of pure stone, and has nothing flameable, he may have to suffer, but its so that he wont have to suffer like he did when his house burnt down

3. supertaters on April 30th, 2009 3:24 am

   of what I know, there are two effects that i can remember:
   extreme fear of death
   extreme emotional attatchment to anyone and anything

4. imrt70 on May 3rd, 2009 12:42 am

   Trauma affects different people in different ways. You were obviously close to your father when the tragedy occurred, hence, the pushing away to those that are close or potentially close to you. You don’t want your emotional level to get to high with the others in question, so that if something DID happen to them, the pain might not be as severe.
   You must try to convince yourself otherwise. You will burden yourself with unfounded guilt if something happens to a loved one after you’ve pushed them away.
   Try telling yourself (as crude as this is going to sound) that EVERYONE will pass on at some point in time, and those passings are not within your control. I’m not sure if you carry any amount of unwarranted guilt along with your father’s passing, but that’s the FIRST thing that needs to be rectified.
   Don’t hold past happenings against future prospects. It’s not fair to them or you.